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Why do Couples choose a male escort

Why Do Couples Choose a male escort ?

 

The most frequently asked question I get asked by women and sometimes men, who are not clients is “why women pay for sex”?

So I have found myself asking my clients why they have chosen to use a service such as mine, and I have found the answers or reasons given can be varied and unique, however there are some common responses and reasons that are given and I think will be apparent why in today’s society.

Apparently, if men want sex and pay for it, its accepted, “yes well that is men for you”!! But do women not have the same desires? well apparently so, maybe not the same fantasy as what a male is looking for but never the less, women have desires of an intimate nature.

Since I commenced escorting in 2003, I have found that in about 2010, the industry boomed. Some of this may be because of social acceptance, smartphones and the internet, and movies like 50 Shades of Grey.

No matter the growth in male escorting, the reasons are still the same. So, what have women told me?

First maybe the best way to describe who uses my service is to also put them into a demographics

50 % of my work has been single or married women, while the other 50 % are couples. Of those

  • Women – 50 % are married and the other 50 % are single, usually 40 years to late 60’s
  • Couples – 90 % married and usually 45 years to late 60’s
  • 80 % of my clients are regulars in both categories

This demographic has not changed since I was 37 when I first started. rarely would I get people below the age of 35 in either category, but I still get the odd few that are outside those age groups.

So, what are the reasons given by women?

It’s safer than having an affair

A lot of women that have used my service once or on an ongoing basis. Our connections, feeling, mutual attractions may and are often real, but at the end of the day, nothing can come about from it like the risks that are associated with an affair.

There is often a desire to experiment after having a mismatched sex drive with their partner – and hence want sex, but not an affair. They can enter a secure safe place or a public bar, get to know the person, but always aware of what is around the corner.

Not one client I have ever seen has felt guilty after their experience with me, and in fact that’s often the fear they have before we meet. An escort is not a means of finding if the grass is greener on the other side. However, if often awakens many different feelings, about life, their passion, their relationship.

I have been seeing some clients for over 10 years now and to some extent I am the glue I their relationship, even though the partner may be totally aware of my existence. There are no physical records of credit card transactions, often initial contact or subsequent bookings are made by email and the whole experience is held in strict confidence between the client and escort.

Its convenient and easier than online dating.

I am surprised how hard it is for single and married women to find good men out there. There is a male shortage out there. Its seems strange but Online dating consumes a lot of time, men are not what they say they are and don’t resemble their pictures.

So sometimes women like to shake it up a bit and hire a professional who knows what he is doing, but always, the woman is in control.

I come across of lot of women who have been treated appallingly by men, who show no respect or common courtesies, let alone know what a woman wants or needs.

Single mums are probably the largest single category of women that use my service. They are time poor, juggling kids, family/ money and the home on their own. I must admit I love those situations where I do everything for the, I let them know it’s about them and for once they don’t have to worry about anything.

 

The deeply concealed secret fantasy!

This is very common, inspired by movies or their own sexual desires or fantasy, they want to have that experience. An experience where you are free to give voice to your most deeply concealed fantasies and live them out in safe, judgement free space? with someone who knows exactly what they are doing, where everything is completely under your control? It not uncommon that women cannot discuss these fantasies with their partner, so they seek out someone like me.

The women who see me are not interested in just any old sex; they were after something far more fulfilling than that.

Women that I spoke to have held deep emotions around their experiences with me, however all had felt empowered by their choice to engage me to meet their physical and emotional needs.

 

Women don’t get the sensual romantic needs at Home.

This one surprises me the most. Very attractive women, that may have a normal or higher sex drive, or need for sensual romantic needs that I am able to provide. Half the guys out there do not know what they already have. It’s not always the case, but a lot of men when they reach a certain age, just lose their Mojo.

So, some seek me out because they miss the sexual touch and intimacy. But many women wanted something different. Often, they had sexual fantasies of being spanked, tied up, or dominated in some way.

Although this is an incredibly common fantasy, it’s not an easy one to live out. The levels of trust required are considerable. Many of the women I have spoken to described feelings of shame around their fantasy. Others spoke of the difficulty of inviting a partner into their private fantasy life, and of not quite getting it ‘right’ when they did.

The experience often makes women feel closer to their husband / partner. Its seems unusual. However, it’s a very real reaction I often get after woman have seen me, and they are often surprised themselves how they felt. They often do not feel guilty about what they have done.

I don’t want to be alone in a strange city.

Usually women travelling married or single, these women often admit they never ever thought they would consider paying for sex. Often the booking starts out as a companion, dinner date drinks, But the option is always there for more. 95 % of women want more, but 100 % never regret what they have done.

So often a woman travelling, on holidays and bored, single mums, or generally a planned rendezvous, there is often a fantasy or sexual desire to have sex with a stranger. But it must be safe and with someone who knows what they are doing.

I Just want a sensual massage. 

It’s not always about sex, some women just want a massage with the touch from a male while both are naked. The soft touches add a level of excitement and often is enough to provide that release that a woman may be after.

It may be that the woman may be looking for more, but they are uncertain of what they want or how to express their desires.

I want someone that knows what he is doing. 

It’s not always about sex, some women just want a massage with the touch from a male while both are naked. The soft touches add a level of excitement and often is enough to provide that release that a woman may be after.

Visiting a male escort can be a major milestone on the path to reclaiming their right to receiving erotic pleasure. There is a need to create a safe space in which to explore sexual desires which is a reoccurring theme with the women I seen

 

Womens Sexual Fantasies

WOMENS SEXUAL FANTASIES

Every woman on earth has fantasized about some explicit sexual fantasy that she may or may not have been too ashamed to talk about. Whether it’s your girlfriend or your wife, this top 8 list that I have discovered over the many years being a male escort as true forbidden fantasies of women.

Although most women prefer to leave their fantasies at that, being a male escort, I have been amazed the amount of women that open up to me and tell all. I feel like a hairdresser or best friend with women revealing to me their most intimate desires and fantasies. So if you a male reading this and your woman seems to be wandering off in thought, who knows, she may be cruising around in the mystical world of sexual fantasy.

So do you think you can guess what some of them are? This list took a lot of time to comprise (and a few bottles of red wine as well), and the women’s names have been changed to protect their privacy.

So the next time you’re engaging in pillow talk with your partner, open up and discuss some of these fantasies. You never know, her fantasy may be more in common with yours than you might think.

Keep in mind that fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. They are either taken from past experiences or may even be entirely imaginary. Sometimes these fantasies are taboo, or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available through fantasy. But as you’ll figure out today, the modern woman marvels at sex and sexuality.

8. Sex with Strangers

Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man and going to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel like the only people they can truly let loose with are strangers simply because they won’t be judged. And who cares anyway? They’ll probably never see the beautiful stranger again.

This is the most common fantasy, and often one a woman is not willing to share with her husband or partner. Being an escort, there is also some level of safety attached with seeing a professional.


7. The more the merrier

Threesomes or sex with two men is one of the most popular amongst women. The freedom of being nude in front of two men or more who are equally exposed, allowing different men touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is an incredibly erotic experience.

This should not be misunderstood to assume that all women will want to engage in group intercourse with another women, or assume that she will sleep with your mates. This is for her to own and manage.

Often there is a lot of processing involved in getting over the thought that she has done something wrong afterwards, guilt or even feel like a slut afterwards. However with every couple I have seen, I ask the same question after we are clothed and I am due to leave, ” any regrets of what just happened ?.. The answer is always ” God , NO !, why did we take this long to do this, Why was I afraid !… Often the male half is left surprised how much his partner enjoyed herself.

6. I am taking control !

If there’s one thing that women do like but do not openly display in real life, is sexual domination and control… A man under her control and do what she wants and not having to worry about the man.

This fantasy can be taken to many different levels of control and depends on the women’s personality, sometimes the woman still cannot express her inner desire to tell a man what he wants done to hr or what she wants to do to him.

Every women finds there own way on this journey, and from my perspective, it most enjoyable for me seeing a woman take control and take what she wants and her pleasure… I find this very exciting and erotic. Some of the request I have had include;

  • spanking me
  • ordering me to perform certain sexual acts
  • making me beg for what I want
  • Making me perform oral until she has climaxed once twice or more before.
  • Dressing up, teasing me, tying me up

5. Public display

In today’s world of confident women, I was not surprised to learn that many of them fantasize about having an audience whilst engaging in sexual acts with a partner. I guess the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their “performance” provides them with a feeling of empowerment.

Sometimes women may ask to be taken to a swingers club, not necessarily to have group sex, but to watch others and then have others watch us. Sometimes it like acting out your in a porn movie.

4. Sexually ravaged

Some women fantasize about having a master, their role in the scenario differs greatly depending what each women desires. Whereas some women said that they would surrender to their master’s demands, others opposed the idea and said that they would resist and would disobey my commands to tease me.

Other women just want to be sexually ravaged. They what things to be taken slow, sucking and licking to a point that they want to be fucked, and fucked hard, and desiring both of us to cum together.

Not going to far in extremes, but some women do enjoy being restrained and tied up and want me to take them they way I want.


3. I kissed a girl

Not the most common fantasy of women, however there is a small portion of women, that once they have seen me, have a desire to share the experience with another woman ( unicorn ).

The idea of touching another soft, hairless body and softly sucking her tongue, amongst other things, seems very erotic. Its more common around couples, where the woman desires such encounters, however some women find it difficult to experience with their husband / Partner.

Sorry guys, but this may not work out with your fantasy, but it ties in with the first fantasy of women’s desire to have sex with a stranger. Infact in this case, two strangers. This fantasy women don’t want their partner involved with another female, so they hire me and a woman.

There is a belief out there that Unicorns do not exist, well I have to tell you they do. In my first relationship, I had, my partner that was very much into women. But she liked men as well. But every second weekend our Unicorn would stay with us, eat , cook and have sex with us both together or separately. No one in the outside world knew of our arrangement, its was mutually beneficial for both women and kept as a private matter. I never argued with the arrangement either but I also had to keep that secret from my closest mates.

2. Leave a good tip

Keeping in mind that the women that see me are usually professionals with commendable careers, some of them have fantasized about being strippers, while others took things a step further and imagined being a prostitute.

Obviously, this is a fantasy that I am unable to provide, however women have often asked me how it would work, and who would they sleep with as a client, can they choose, how can they play safe.

The fantasy is not just the act of sex itself, it can also involve dressing up, the art of teasing and taking control and the bigger the tip, the bigger the surprise for him.

1. Gangbang

Not many women ask for this, but occasionally I get a request if I could organise a group of men to for her pleasure.

I often find it hard to pick the types, it can be anything in my past experience from a Barrister to a nurse. And the sexual acts that are asked for can vary widely.

Special note

Guys, please keep in mind that these are fantasies; don’t read this article and take it as a reason to get medieval on your women. The reason fantasies are so cherished is because the majority of them will never be realized.

So is there any fantasies I have not listed, please email me and tell me yours.

Top 5 Female Fantasies

Top 5 Female Sex Fantasies … And What They Mean

This is an extract from Ian Blog. Interesting reading.

” While people may joke that men have only one thing on their minds, guys aren’t the only ones with sex on the brain. In fact, according to a 1995 study by Harold Leitenberg and Kris Henning, sexual fantasies are common among both men and women, and approximately 95 percent of both genders say they have had some form of sexual fantasies.

Fantasies play a valuable role in our sex-lives. First off, they fuel arousal: “Thoughts can create real physical changes in your body, and you can use this to your advantage,” writes sex educator Emily Nagoski in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms. “This is why people fantasize even while they’re having sex – the added juice of the fantasy heightens arousal when the physical sensations aren’t enough to get us where we want to go.”

But while both men and women have undoubtedly healthy fantasy lives, they’re not fantasizing about the same things.

In A Billion Wicked Thoughts, neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam report that while men are, indeed, more visual, preferring to fantasize about what they might do to that fetching new colleague the next cubicle over, women prefer to fantasize about what a man might do to them. In short, they’re turned on by the thought of feeling desired.

How does this desire play out in their sexual imaginings? Here 5 common female sexual fantasies, and a look at where they come from:

  1. Sex with a stranger. In a 2001 study published by The Journal of Sex Research, 80 percent of partnered women said they had fantasized about someone other than their partner during sex in the previous two months. Why? Because, while sex within the context of monogamy can be totally hot, it’s hard to replicate the intensity of the initial chase. Fantasizing about someone new is a way of recalling how fantastic it felt to be so obviously pursued.
  2. Being dominant in bed. While it may seem counterintuitive for a woman to want to take charge when what they’re really craving is the feeling of being desired, the dominatrix scenario actually revolves around the man worshipping the woman’s body, and begging her for attention.
  3. Exhibitionism. In this scenario, a woman not only gets to enjoy sex with her partner, but also gets to enjoy the knowledge that someone else (or several someones?) is feeling aroused by watching her in action.
  4. Being sexually ravaged. Sometimes known as rape fantasy, this particular desire is not necessarily what you think. How many spicy hot movie scenes have you enjoyed in which the man pushed the woman up against the wall, forcing a kiss upon her? The thought of a man so bursting with desire is an undeniably a turn on for some women.
  5. Enjoying a threesome. Being worshipped and adored by two different men — or a man and a woman — can be twice as nice.

So what does this mean about women’s psychological state? In my experience as a couples therapist, fantasies are rarely a problem. Rather, they can fuel arousal in your sex life, and are a sign of high sexual satisfaction. Why? If you can share a sexy fantasy with your partner without feeling judged or embarrassed, the intimacy within your relationship is obviously strong. Adds Good in Bed expert Ann Potter, “Fantasizing is like putting training wheels on my desires – those desires that are maybe a little too ‘out there’ for me or my partner to get on board with acting out right away, or ever.”

When should you worry? If you’re feeling bored or upset during sex and using fantasy as a way of disconnecting or if you’re repeatedly fantasizing about someone inappropriate — like a brother-in-law or a best friend’s partner — there may be cause for concern. In those cases, think about whether there could be any larger, underlying problem in your relationship.
For example, a former client of mine, a young bride-to-be, found herself constantly fantasizing about her future brother-in-law instead of the groom. These sexual fantasies were not a sign of attraction, but were actually a sign of her intense ambivalence over her impending marriage. When she ultimately broke off the engagement, her fantasies about her fiance’s brother faded.

So don’t fear your fantasies. Enjoy them. Use them to heat things up in the bedroom. And remember: There is a clear difference between fantasy and reality. And sometimes, a wacky fantasy is just hinting at another, perfectly normal desire within you.

Ian Kerner is a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author of numerous books for Harper Collins, including She Comes First and Love in the Time of Colic. He is CNN.com’s sex expert and appears frequently on the TODAY Show. He is the founder of Good in Bed and lives with his wife and two boys in New York City.

Sex with strangers show

SEX WITH STRANGERS

 

Interview of two straight Sydney male escorts – ” Sex with strangers “

 

Sex With Strangers

Chris travels to New South Wales, Australia where sex work is decriminalized to interview local sex workers about their lives. Guests include Tilly LawlessCameron CoxZach HunterTom Jones, and Rachel Wotton, among others. Catherine Healy from the New Zealand Prostitutes’ Collective also joins the conversation.

To learn more about the decriminalized sex industry in New Zealand check out this studyfrom the University of Otago, which surveyed 772 sex workers. The government of New Zealand also released this exhaustive report in 2008.

And while you’re clicking on links, follow Chris on Twitter. He just joined as @SexWithChris.

 

To listen to the interview, click on the link below and go to episode 34

http://sexwithstrangersshow.com/

Download or view in itunes

 

Why Do Women pay for sex

Why Do Women pay for sex ?

 

The most frequently asked question I get asked by women and sometimes by men, who are not clients, is “ why do women pay for sex ”?

So I have found myself asking my clients why they have chosen to use a service such as mine, and I have found the answers or reasons given can be varied and unique, however there are some common responses and reasons that are given and I think will be apparent why in today’s society.

Apparently, if men want sex and pay for it, its accepted, “yes well that is men for you”!! But do women not have the same desires? well apparently so, maybe not the same fantasy as what a male is looking for but never the less, women have desires of an intimate nature.

Since I commenced escorting in 2003, I have found that in about 2010, the industry boomed. Some of this may be because of social acceptance, smartphones and the internet, and movies like 50 Shades of Grey.

No matter the growth in male escorting, the reasons are still the same. So, what have women told me?

First maybe the best way to describe who uses my service is to also put them into a demographics

50 % of my work has been single or married women, while the other 50 % are couples. Of those

  • Women – 50 % are married and the other 50 % are single, usually 40 years to late 60’s
  • Couples – 90 % married and usually 45 years to late 60’s
  • 80 % of my clients are regulars in both categories

This demographic has not changed since I was 37 when I first started. rarely would I get people below the age of 35 in either category, but I still get the odd few that are outside those age groups.

So, what are the reasons given by women.

1)  It’s safer than having an affair

A lot of women that have used my service once or on an ongoing basis. Our connections, feeling, mutual attractions may and are often real, but at the end of the day, nothing can come about from it like the risks that are associated with an affair.

There is often a desire to experiment after having a mismatched sex drive with their partner – and hence want sex, but not an affair. They can enter a secure safe place or a public bar, get to know the person, but always aware of what is around the corner.

Not one client I have ever seen has felt guilty after their experience with me, and in fact that’s often the fear they have before we meet. An escort is not a means of finding if the grass is greener on the other side. However, if often awakens many different feelings, about life, their passion, their relationship.

I have been seeing some clients for over 10 years now and to some extent I am the glue I their relationship, even though the partner may be totally aware of my existence. There are no physical records of credit card transactions, often initial contact or subsequent bookings are made by email and the whole experience is held in strict confidence between the client and escort.

2) It’s convenient and easier than online dating.

I am surprised how hard it is for single and married women to find good men out there. There is a male shortage out there. Its seems strange but Online dating consumes a lot of time, men are not what they say they are and don’t resemble their pictures.

So sometimes women like to shake it up a bit and hire a professional who knows what he is doing, but always, the woman is in control.

I come across of lot of women who have been treated appallingly by men, who show no respect or common courtesies, let alone know what a woman wants or needs.

Single mums are probably the largest single category of women that use my service. They are time poor, juggling kids, family/ money and the home on their own. I must admit I love those situations where I do everything for the, I let them know it’s about them and for once they don’t have to worry about anything.

3) The deeply concealed secret fantasy!

This is very common, inspired by movies or their own sexual desires or fantasy, they want to have that experience. An experience where you are free to give voice to your most deeply concealed fantasies and live them out in safe, judgement free space? with someone who knows exactly what they are doing, where everything is completely under your control? It not uncommon that women cannot discuss these fantasies with their partner, so they seek out someone like me.

The women who see me are not interested in just any old sex; they were after something far more fulfilling than that.

Women that I spoke to have held deep emotions around their experiences with me, however all had felt empowered by their choice to engage me to meet their physical and emotional needs.

4) Women don’t get the sensual romantic needs at Home.

This one surprises me the most. Very attractive women, that may have a normal or higher sex drive, or need for sensual romantic needs that I am able to provide. Half the guys out there do not know what they already have. It’s not always the case, but a lot of men when they reach a certain age, just lose their Mojo.

So, some seek me out because they miss the sexual touch and intimacy. But many women wanted something different. Often, they had sexual fantasies of being spanked, tied up, or dominated in some way.

Although this is an incredibly common fantasy, it’s not an easy one to live out. The levels of trust required are considerable. Many of the women I have spoken to described feelings of shame around their fantasy. Others spoke of the difficulty of inviting a partner into their private fantasy life, and of not quite getting it ‘right’ when they did.

The experience often makes women feel closer to their husband / partner. Its seems unusual. However, it’s a very real reaction I often get after woman have seen me, and they are often surprised themselves how they felt. They often do not feel guilty about what they have done.

5) I don’t want to be alone in a strange city.

Usually women travelling married or single, these women often admit they never ever thought they would consider paying for sex. Often the booking starts out as a companion, dinner date drinks, But the option is always there for more. 95 % of women want more, but 100 % never regret what they have done.

So often a woman travelling, on holidays and bored, single mums, or generally a planned rendezvous, there is often a fantasy or sexual desire to have sex with a stranger. But it must be safe and with someone who knows what they are doing.

6 ) I Just want a sensual massage. 

It’s not always about sex, some women just want a massage with the touch from a male while both are naked. The soft touches add a level of excitement and often is enough to provide that release that a woman may be after.

It may be that the woman may be looking for more, but they are uncertain of what they want or how to express their desires.

7) I want someone that knows what he is doing. 

It’s not always about sex, some women just want a massage with the touch from a male while both are naked. The soft touches add a level of excitement and often is enough to provide that release that a woman may be after.

Visiting a male escort can be a major milestone on the path to reclaiming their right to receiving erotic pleasure. There is a need to create a safe space in which to explore sexual desires which is a reoccurring theme with the women I have seen.