Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ – Hiring a male escort – what happens, what to expect? On this FAQ page, you will have questions about my services. So below you will find a list of common questions I have been asked over the past few years, that sometimes people have trouble asking. If the question is not answered here, be sure to email me any other questions.

You may also be interested in why women choose to use the services of a male escort in my Blog

If you want and feel up to it, you can discuss anything across the phone with me, however I will be limited with my answer if you are called from an unlisted number.

How to Make a booking with Tom

Question : I am not sure what I want or what to ask for?

Answer : Often ladies or couples are not exactly sure of what they are looking for, and in some instances, you may book for a casual dinner, drinks date, or just a sensual massage and you may decide then if you want things to develop further. The service is totally up to you and you should only do whatever you’re comfortable with. We can then arrange a time to meet and a location that you are comfortable with. I would also recommend we talk on the phone first, don’t be afraid to call me.

Question : Can I hire you just for dinner?

Answer : Yes. I offer a straight companionship service for those casual dinner dates and or more formal occasions including black tie

Question : I feel uncomfortable giving you my Mobile Number, do you need it?

Answer : Initially you can just email me, however when you are making a booking you will need to confirm and call back from a mobile. This is to protect you and me. I do not keep any numbers of any clients on my phone and after each client the numbered is erased. I keep no records of any sort on my clients. If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can give yourself an Alias if you do not want to be addressed by your real name.

Question : I need you to be discreet, especially coming to my home or hotel, how can you assure me of this.

Answer : As most of my bookings are at night, If I am coming to your private home, I will call before I enter and if you have some specific instructions, I can enter via a discreet entry if you are worried of neighbours, I will not be parked outside your house. If I am meeting you at hotel, I will ask you to escort me to your room or you can give me specific instructions with a key at Concierge.  If you want me to bring the massage table, then please call me to discuss.

Question : How can I be sure that it is safe to meet you?

Answer : This is a reasonable question, and I am happy to do whatever it takes to make you comfortable. I recommend we meet in a public place, like a bar or coffee shop. If you are comfortable, then we can go from there if you don’t want me to meet me in your home or hotel room. Depending on the service you are after.

Question : I want this for me and my partner, can it be a surprise, or my partner does not know.

Answer : I will play along with any reasonable requests; however, nothing will happen during the course of the evening without the full consent of your partner. If I am to meet your partner in a bar or other venue, no sex will take place unless I am assured that I have consent from both parties.

Question : What are your terms and conditions?

Answer : Please see my Terms and conditions page. If you have any questions that it doesn’t answer, please email me and I will be happy to assist.

Dinner date / Companion / Tour Guide / Hens Party

Question : I am attending a Ball / Function can you escort me?

Answer : I have attending and accompanied many ladies at restaurants, bars, balls, gatherings and functions. I always suggest when introducing me as either a close friend or colleague. I will compliment you as your partner and you will enjoy a night of wine, food and dancing.

Question : At home dinner date – Will you cook for me?

Answer :  I am no chef, but I am the perfect host and very handy in the kitchen.

Question : If we go to a restaurant, who pays?

Answer : You will pay for all expenses, however especially with some of my regular dates, I will drive you, escort you and pay for dinner if agreed but will be reimbursed by you later in the evening.

Question : Can we just have drinks, talk.

Answer : Yes. that is often the best way for both of us to get to know one another.

Question : I am from out of town and need a companion, I would like someone to show me around town?

Answer : I have lived in Sydney most of my life and know the city, finest restaurants, the best sites and lookouts around. If you also require transport, I also have a nice new car in order for us to move around town (there is no extra charge for the use of my vehicle). I am a holder of a full driver’s licence including a Riders Licence if touring bikes / Road Bikes, boating licence and powdered watercraft license.

Question : Do you hold a boat license?

Answer : Yes, I currently hold a Boat Drivers Licence ass issued by NSW Roads & Maritime Services. I also very familiar with sailing boats as well as powered vessels.  I have been hired as the driver of marine vessels for small gatherings and hens’ nights.

Question : Do you provide a service for a group of women?

Answer : Yes and the rate is the same not based on number – visit my page Hens Parties for further details.

Sex and safety

Question : Do I have to give your personal details of me / us?

Answer : No, you can call from a silent number initially, however bookings must be confirmed with a real number. You may give me alias names if you wish. This service is very discrete.

Question : Do you keep mobile numbers?

Answer : No, not unless we both agree and should you require my services again. There is no chance then of my phone being lost or stolen and numbers used. I delete all numbers after our date

Question : Do we have to have sex?

Answer : No, this service is about you, not me and sex is entirely up to you. Anything from just talk and relaxation, to massage, sensual, erotic massage, or sex it’s all your choice and if you change your mind at any time, you can ask for more, or less.

Question : Do you practice safe sex?

Answer : Yes, I always practice safe sex and the use condoms are mandatory. In case you’re worried of any leakages I have also had a vasectomy. See below about STD’s

Question : Do you have regular testing for STIs (sexually transmitted infections)?

Answer : Yes, I have check-ups every two months and I have a complete STI testing for your safety and mine. My latest STD results & certificates can be found by clicking here

If you have any questions about the test results, please email me.

Question : Who provides the condoms?

Answer : I provide condoms.

Question : I am a Virgin and looking to lose my virginity, can you help?

Answer : No. Unless you are over 30, please don’t ask, I guess I have some limits and there are enough escorts that openly advertise such a service, I however believe ones virginity should be lost by anyone other than an escort.

Question : Are you vaccinated against Covid-19 ?

Answer : Yes. I am Fully Vaccinated.


Question : How does payment work?

Answer : I accept only one form of payment:


Cash payments can be made when we meet.

Question : When do I pay you and how?

Answer : I always accept payment after our date. Some people prefer to be a little more discrete and leave it marked in an envelope or dining room table.

Massage Service

Question : Ladies & Couples – What’s the difference between a sensual and erotic massage?

Answer : A sensual massage is massage where I will massage you naked or if you wish partially clothed and I will give you a full body massage and also tease around your erogenous zone but there is no oral sex from me on you or penetration by my fingers or penis. An erotic Massage includes a sensual massage but also includes sexual intercourse.

Question : Ladies & Couples – Do I need to provide anything for a straight massage?

Answer : I come equipped with a folding massage table, towels and a selection of massage oils and some other tantalizing equipment as well as an iPhone with some music to create the scene.

Question : Do I need to be nude for the massage?

Answer : I will always ask what will ever make you feel comfortable, if you feel more comfortable with your bra and underwear on you will still enjoy the massage just as much as being naked. During the massage you can always request more.

Question : Will you be nude during the massage?

Answer : As for you I will also ask how you would like me, I may be clothed ( usually wearing short and a t shirt ), or I may wear a sexy G string or be completely nude and yes you may still keep your clothes on. Usually the level of clothing with be the same as you may be wearing.

Question : Can I touch you during that massage?

Answer : Yes. You can touch any part of my body.

Question : Do you kiss your clients?

Answer : Yes, that’s part of the whole experience, however if you prefer not to kiss, that is also your choice.

Question : Do you do oral sex on me?

Answer : Yes, I find oral sex very exciting, and if you enjoy receiving oral, I am sure you will want more from me.

Question : Can I perform Oral Sex on you?

Answer : Yes, you can perform oral sex on me without a condom.

 My body, Age, Looks, Testimonials

Question : Why do you not show your face on the website and can I see one? 

Answer : I can show you my face shot once we have initially communicated. I have been working as an escort for over 8 years. I don’t show my face on the web to avoid recognition especially at such events as functions balls etc. This is more to protect you as my client. I have attended one ball where I had recognised another escort (who shows his face on websites). It’s for this reason my face remains discrete in the public arena.

Please don’t just send an email asking for face pics without first calling. If I establish, you are under aged you will be blocked.

Question : How old are you?

Answer : I am 52 years of age, keep very fit by attending the gym every day. I would be more appropriate for people aged 45 and over.

Question : Are you a smoker or take drugs?

Answer : I am neither a smoker nor take any form of drugs.

Question : What is your penis like?

Answer : It is a little over six inches long when hard and reasonably thick and circumcised. It is always firm

Question : Can I see a picture of your penis?

Answer : By clicking on ” My Penis ” you agree that you are over the age of 18. So, if you wish to see a picture of my penis please click on the following link. Warning it contains graphic nudity.

Question : Do you have much body hair?

Answer : No. I have a little hair on my lower legs and arms. My chest is trimmed, and the rest of my body is shaved including pubic hair. You can see more of me in my Gallery

Question : What does your body look like?

Answer : Please refer to my gallery. Photos on the FAQ page are recent (less than 12 months).

Do you cater to…

Question : Do you provide escort services for men only?

Answer : No I do not.

Question : Do you provide escort services for Japanese women?

Answer : Yes I have provide escort / Hosuto serviced for Japanese clients on many occasions. It’s always best to email me so I can use Google translate when trying to explain the service. If you are the husband looking for traditional escort service for your partner while you’re visiting Sydney, I do cater for an all-day service

Question : I am older / younger than you, can I still book a date with you?

Answer : Yes, of course. Age and experience are not an issue at all.

Question : Do you cater to couples?

Answer : Yes, if you would like me to join you and your partner for a date, then that is fine. I am heterosexual, but quite comfortable & confident when playing with couples. Male to male contact is inevitable in a threesome, and this does not worry me.

Question : I have a particular fantasy that I want to satisfy, can you help me?

Answer : Yes, I can. And don’t be shy to ask, as long as it does not include pain or humiliation.

Question : Do I do DP?

Answer : Yes, as long as she is feeling comfortable with it.

Question : We are a couple, the male partner would like male to male interaction?

Answer : A common fantasy for couples and in a couples situation. I am not afraid of male to male contact with your partner and if so, desired can provide a happy ending for all. I do not do any penetration with a male.

Question : Do you cater for virgins?

Answer : No. Unless you are over 30, please don’t ask, I guess I have some limits and there are enough escorts that openly advertise such a service, I however believe ones virginity should be lost by anyone other than an escort.

Other questions

Question : Why are you an independent escort rather than work for an agency?

Answer : I have worked for myself and agencies as an escort. I prefer the freedom to be able to offer my own unique service, with its own style and rates. If you have booked me before through an agency, and as I am loyal to those businesses you will have to book me again through that agency.

Question : I want this service just for my wife and can I just watch?

Answer : Yes and this is a common request. I will before as for boundaries and limits to be set for everyone’s comfort zone.

Question : As a couple, can we film or take pictures?

Answer : You can film and take pictures of me, however during any of these activities I will be wearing a mask. I do also carry a mask for your partner if required.

Question : Can I have sex with you naturally?

Answer : Unfortunately condoms must be worn at all times. Its protection for you and me.

Question : My husband has a requested that he wants to watch you cum / on / over me?

Answer : It may seem unusual at first that you partner wants to see this or gets turned on by the idea. This is not uncommon. But yes, I am more than happy to perform this act for you and your husband.

Question : Female Ejaculation / squirting – is it true and can you make me squirt?

Answer : There is scientific proof that it is real. I cannot promise anything but certainly I can make it happen in most women and it’s a very satisfy new experience.

Question : Do you travel internationally?

Answer : Yes I have done international services before.

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